Monday, December 19, 2016

THE WAITING GAME

PATIENCE IS POWER.

Patience is more than just waiting.  Patience is restraint when you are provoked and hope when you are low.  It is about striving to get up no matter how far you have fallen.  And to do it without hurting others.  It is a means of purifying your heart...

Many of us feel like we spend a majority of our lives waiting and longing for what comes next.  We wait in line to ride the roller coaster, to pay for the groceries, to taste our lattes.  We wait for our food to be delivered to the table, the day we can get our driver's license, that text or call from someone special.  We wait for that college acceptance or (gulp) rejection letter.  We wait for healing when we are sick, that special vacation when all is well.


We wait for our father, mother, sibling, son or daughter to return from duty in places faraway.  We wait to be noticed...chosen...loved.  We are always waiting for the next season, hoping better things will come once we graduate, give our lives to a career worthy of of our talents, find that perfect person to marry, and then we wait to start our own families.  We live in an age that caters to our impatience: instantaneous overseas communication, overnight shipping and microwave ovens, fast food and fast tracks.  We are constantly looking forward to the next best thing, hoping to get through the now so we can get to the "then."

But is holding out for what's to come the smartest strategy?  We all want to live meaningful lives full of experiences and accomplishments we can be proud of.  We want a story to tell our grandchildren. But many of us fail to recognize that the best moments are the ones happening...
Right now.

Maybe the best time in our lives isn't ahead of us or behind us.  Maybe it is actually somewhere in the in between.  Maybe the "mundane" is really what it means to be alive.  Maybe we have an incredible opportunity to make of it what we will--to resent its lack of adventure or simply rejoice in the beauty of taking a moment to relish our next breath.

Real life doesn't happen on the big screen.  Sometimes, it's boring.  Sometimes, it is lackluster.   And as hard as we may try to hurry it all up, we are still often stuck in the waiting game...those less than remarkable moments.

So, what do we do with those?

We learn to embrace the wait.  We fall in love with the in-between, relishing those interruptions
instead of resenting them.  And in doing this...in allowing ourselves these moments to wait, we might just learn a few lessons that strengthen and nurture our souls.

When we are forced to slow down, we are reminded of the truth: we are not in control. Whether stopped at a light, stalled in a line, or put on hold, we can let it tie us into knots of anxiety, or we can accept that we cannot live in the past or the future; all we have is the right now, so we may as well take our time!  Waiting is not a detour, it is a very important part of the journey.  We need to learn to appreciate the space in between Point A and B.  After all, it is in this space that we grow.  It may happen slowly--almost painfully so--but one day, we will wake up and be amazed at the distance we have come!

Waiting can be about much more than waiting, and it can certainly involve more than the digital pacifiers we carry around with us.  We need to reframe waiting as an opportunity to disconnect from the task driven part of ourselves that craves stimulation and reconnect with the other, quieter part that longs for stillness, peace and reflection.  Maybe we can start to think anew about waiting as the space between the notes of music, a deep breath after a steep climb, a blank page dividing the chapters of a book, a patch of green in a towering, grey city.

In both the Jewish and Christian traditions, we are currently in a season of waiting.  Only one candle at a time may be lit on the Menorah and advent wreath.  Both holidays commemorate a "waiting" for a miracle, and both require a great measure of faith, hope and love and patience.  What better time then to stop and think? To create and capture rather than consume?  To work out unresolved issues and let yourselves daydream and take in the surroundings of right where you are?

Trust the wait.  Embrace the uncertainty.  Enjoy the beauty of "becoming."  Because when nothing is certain...

Anything is possible! 


Please enjoy this very special story/lesson on patience:  http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/story-one-taxi-driver-will-change-entire-day/

Then take some time to tell me what you thought.  What was the hardest thing you have ever had to wait for?  Did you learn anything in having to wait?  What was it? 

I wish you ALL a very Merry Christmas, Happiest of Hanukkahs, and most wondrous of holidays! 

  




52 comments:

  1. The article was so sweet and sad at the same time. I believe everything happens for a reason; this was no coincidence. This particular taxi driver was delivered to the woman’s doorstep because she needed this to happen, and he could make it happen. Something told him not to drive away, but to go knock on the door, and something told him not to get mad, but to be patient and take the longer route like the woman requested. This not only changed her life for the better, but also his. He told us he was lost in thought, grateful that he had this interaction to reflect upon. It also teaches others a lesson of appreciating others and all the small things that make a difference, and that patience pays off.

    I can’t think of the hardest thing I have had to wait for, so I’ll just explain a general one. Breaks from school. Whether it’s Thanksgiving, winter, spring, or summer, I look forward to them and get frustrated when they are far away. I think everyone can relate to this, even teachers, so you know the reasons why. If I have learned anything from all this waiting, it would be to appreciate the breaks even more (I used to wish summer break was over halfway through it, but I don’t have that foreign hope anymore) and work hard all the way up to them. That way, you feel like the breaks are well deserved, and they become more relaxing and stress-relieving.

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    1. I agree with your assessment of the story. I don't believe in coincidence really either. I think that he was in exactly the right place at the exact moment he was needed. I wonder sometimes, when I am impatient, or unhappy because I am late, if there was a very important reason why I was where I was. Maybe I missed it...or maybe it wasn't even about me. We just have to have faith and trust that wherever we are at any given moment, that is where we are supposed to be.

      I always look forward to breaks, but as time goes rushing by faster every year, I am grateful for every given moment that I feel healthy and well - even in the hard work times! :) It is the lesson of aging, I think!

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  2. I really enjoyed the story, it reminded me of how I try to live my life each day. This story really teaches you or reminds you that the "big" things in life aren't the only thing that is important. That you need to appreciate the small things and not ignore them thinking they're insignificant. I think some of the hardest things I've had to wait for are whenever I go to visit my Nana because I love spending time with her and she lives in another state, so I don't see her often. Also, when I was really little and my Nana would take me to go visit my Biological Mother in Jail. I remember thinking that I couldn't wait to go see mommy and the other ladies in their funny looking clothes and the nice police officer at the front of the gate, that would always smile at me. I think it really made me value those moments with her when I think about it today, even though I don't speak with her often.

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  3. This article was so sad! This made me really think about moments in my life and how significant they will be in my later years. This also made me think of how my impatience might affect so many people around me and I might not even realize it because I am already onto the next thing. This article has already thought about my moments - the moments that have stuck out to me over my 16 years - and become sentimental because I have not thought of them in a long time. It has made me realize that I should enjoy the moments; not only that, it has shown me that I should not rush from one place to the next because someone who should be a large part of my life is back where I left because I was impatient. I have always been extremely impatient - I have always known it was one of my flaws - but this has given me a real reason to slow down.

    One of the hardest things I have had to wait for is... (drum roll please)... my dog Lucy. I am an only child and the only thing I wanted, since I was lonely, was a dog. My dad told me that we would never have a dog and my mom decided that since he was so bent on this that it would be a good idea to just lay off the idea. Years went by and I didn't have a dog and I was getting annoyed. My mom told me that if I wanted a dog so much I would have to pray for it. So, every night, I would pray that, if it was His will, God would somehow make my dad want a dog. That winter my dad, after I asked him, said that we could get a dog as long as it wasn't one of those tiny dogs (which I was TOTALLY fine with). Spring came and my grandma became extremely ill and died a short while after. With everything that was going on my parents forgot about getting a dog and did not realize until I brought it up again the next winter. They applied for a dog at Rescue a Golden and we waited and waited and I was starting to think that we would never get a dog. Finally in May we got a call from RAG and they had a dog for us! They had called 5 other families for the dog and none of them had answered - it was definitely a miracle from God! We got Lucy and she was the perfect dog we could have ever received. She was loving, loyal, sweet, calm, and absolutely the silliest and yet the most intelligent dog I had ever met. I love my dog so much and I could not imagine having any other dog. By waiting I realized that I might not get what I want right away because there is something even better coming later.

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  4. This article really made me think about special moments in my life. And I also agree that everything happens for a reason. The biggest idea I got from this, is that I shouldn't rush through my life, I have to live in the moment. This made me think about a christmas I had when I was ten. This was the first year I actually had money and I bought my mom a diamond necklace. I was so excited and I couldn't wait to give it to her. I didn't care about what I was getting but more excited to see my moms face when she opened my present. I think I had to wait a week for my mom to open it, and it felt like the longest week of my life.

    That is one of the most vivid memories I have and it was a huge milestone for me, because at that moment I realized I was growing up, but having to wait for her to open it made me feel so much happier when she opened it.

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  5. I really enjoyed reading this article, it made me reflect on how I live my life each day. It made me think of all the great opportunities I could get just by meeting someone new and being patient. I was in deep thought while reading this article, I thought of all the moments I've missed an opportunity or that I've done something to change my ways, I've learned that we have to live in the moment, be positive, and happy with what we have and share all that happiness with the people around you. Because just like this taxi driver, he was generous enough to take time and drive through town with the old lady and he ended up making her day. But this also makes me realize, would he have acted the same if it wasn't an old lady? What if she hadn't mentioned that she had little to live? Would he have reacted the same and be that generous?
    Either way, I believe that we ignore the negative and bring in the positive and be patient in our lives we will be better people. The hardest thing I've had to wait for was the day I went to visit my Grandma in Mexico. My grandma lived with us since I was little till I was a teen, but she returned back home to her mother, my great grandma, I was devastated that she had to leave because she was like me second mom. But one summer when my dad told my brother and I that we would be visiting her in 2 weeks, I could NOT wait to go! I really wanted to see her again and hug her and get to spend time with her. Those 2 weeks were the longest weeks ever. From this I learned how important it is to stay close with those you love and understand them and to appreciate them.

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  6. This was such a bitter-sweet article. Reading the story of this taxi driver who chose to stay and who got to bring joy to this old woman was very touching. I believe we all end up in the circumstances we do, with the people we do, not by chance, but for a reason. The article was also very humbling. I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to live in the past or the future because I would rather live in the present and make the most out of every moment. While I say that, it doesn't tend to be how I live my day to day life. I get so caught up in waiting for things to happen, or doing school work, that I forget to look at the world around me. Reading the article brought me back down to the reality that we only have one life to live, and if we don't make the most of it, then what's the point?

    I'm not sure of the hardest thing I've ever had to wait for, but I know I'm in waiting now. I'm at that point in my life where things are about to change and I have to start planning for the future, but I feel like I'm falling behind. There are so many things that need to be done, and I have dreams that feel impossible to reach. However, these are the times in our lives, these seasons of waiting, where we have to have faith and trust. Like I said before, everything happens for a reason.

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  7. This article was quite touching. In fact it was almost fairy-tale like with it's happy ending accompanied by a moral. Honestly I believe God brought that woman peace and joy and all of it was His doing. Things don't just happen. His patience was admirable and heart warming. Just reading it brought a smile to my face. It's the unexpected moments that we remember and cherish most.
    The hardest thing I've had to wait for was probably the Byrd's to show up to our tipping point presentation. It brought me a lot of anxiety and panic than I had wished for, but I learned a lot from it. I learned how to push through, how to not expect anything, and to not panic because the future is undetermined and always will be.

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  8. I think that this article was really touching and contained several lessons that could be learned from. There were several ways that the interaction between the woman and taxi driver could have gone and I think that the reason it went the way it did was fate’s way of giving the woman a last bit of joy.The taxi driver was very kind to have done all he could in order to allow the woman some happiness, and by doing so I believe he gained some happiness himself, or at the very least learned a valuable lesson. I think that living in the moment is something that is hard to accomplish but is worth every bit of effort. We get so caught up in trying to meet deadlines or get to where we are going we miss tons of little things along the way.

    I can’t think of the hardest thing I have had to wait for because everyone of them seemed to be a lifetime in the moment, however one example was going to see my grandmother. She lives in Missouri so I had to take a plane, which took what seemed like forever because I couldn’t wait to see her. I was so excited I didn’t pay much attention to the ride however on the way back I paid more attention and watched as the world seemed to shrink as the plane ascended. Not paying attention to where you are right now can lead to you missing tons of things. I know that some of us are focusing on colleges and our futures, but don’t forget to enjoy high school before it’s gone.

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  9. I loved that article so much, it really makes you think. What if he just drove off and decided to head home, because it was the end of his shift? That older woman wouldn't know joy for the final time. In a way this was a mutualistic relationship at its best because both parties benefited from the experience, and now that man will carry on with his life and maybe impact someone else along the way as the old woman had.

    The hardest thing I have waited for is my revelation as to where I'm going after high school. The only solid fact in my mind is that I'm going to college, but so many forces are trying to sway me between schools. I tried asking for the answer, but I keep being told that "ill know when it comes". That just isn't enough for me. I only have six months to decide, which isn't very long. Hopefully by then I have served my sentence of waiting and come up with a final decision.

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  10. That article was interesting. It kinda makes me think of that whole speech that Benjamin Button gave about things being on time and that certain things wouldn't happen if those people weren't on time. If that man wasn't on time, the old woman's story would have ended some other way. The hardest time that I have had to wait would have to be waiting for my new truck. I was supposed to get it November 26, but it still hasn't come. I have been asking the guy and he says that his boss hasn't made the decision yet on how he is going to get rid of it, but he already said that he will give it to me. Hopefully when I come back from Australia it will be ready.

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  11. This was a short, simple story but with a lot of meaning. It was very thoughtful of the driver to spend his time with an elderly woman who had nothing left but time. He put his life aside for a few hours and stopped waiting for the next big thing to come. This was a very selfless action that brought him wisdom and something to apply to for the rest of his life. This story inspired me to cherish even the smallest moments that come into my life.
    I wait for everything everyday. I can't think of a lesson learned from all this waiting except that you have to be focused and keep your thoughts straight instead of losing your mind with all the waiting. After reading this story I have learned to not rush your time waiting and take life slow. Hopefully in the end all that waiting will be rewarded.

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  12. I really like reading this story because I feel like it kind of restored some faith in humanity. This man used what little patience that he had to wait for the lady in the story and now she had the best night that she could have before she went into hospice. If he hadn't have waited she could have gotten a terrible cab driver that was rude to her. I've never really had to wait for anything in my life unless it was something materialistic. I needed to have patience when I was waiting to get something new, but there has never been anything that was very important that I had to wait for. This sounds terrible but it is true. I feel like this could be a bad thing for me, especially considering that I should be able to learn something from it.

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  13. I absolutely loved the article. It made me feel sad but also made me optimistic for what I should do differently in the future! I have always wanted to one of those people that can lend a helping hand to people, or just make conversation with someone to learn about them. I find it a little frustrating knowing that there's so many good people with amazing stories but I won't ever get the chance to meet or hear them.
    However I don't have a specific encounter that I can remember that impacted me tremendously. I can however say that waiting for holidays really gets me sometimes. I used to be so anxious during Christmas or birthdays to figure out my gifts and to be able to use whatever I got. I later had to realize that it's better for me to wait because then I can get into the spirit and I personally feel better when I get something for a specific occasion and I open it on/for that occasion.

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  14. This article was so inspiring. It puts our small position in this large world into the perspective of what it might mean to someone else. Each and every person who takes a moment to be kind could have saved the life of someone who was about to take theirs, helping someone who was going in the wrong direction and didn't realize it, or even being the biggest part of someone's long unhappy day. Our actions impact others to such a point, that it could mean the difference between life or death for another human being. The hardest thing I have ever had to wait for is the patience of myself. I am so eager with everything I do and I see the end goal of my work, but never the lessons I should take away from the work. I learned that waiting is a very good thing, because it means you have the time to wait. Many don't have the luxury of time. Like the old woman in the cab driver's story, she didn't have much time left, but in that moment she had the opportunity to take her time and allow herself that luxury. Taking the time to notice the beautiful world around you is so important, but it is never treated as such. Our lives are seen as one day after the next just passing, as if we have all the time in the world, when we really don't. Time is a luxury we all take for granted, and I have had to wait until now to be gifted with the understanding of that. Thank you for sharing this beautiful article Mrs. Caraway. It has truly made a difference in my life, within the short amount of time it took me to read it. Thank you.

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  16. I thoroughly enjoyed this article! For me, it served as a reminder to take time to slow down, and observe. It's easy to forget sometimes that relationships are so important, and there is nothing better to do than to spread love and kindness. Personally, I cannot recall a particular moment were I had to be especially patient. I believe I have to exercise patience everyday. Sometimes I want to know right away how things are going to turn out, and what my future is going to look like. When things get hard as well, I want everything to pass quickly so that I can move on. But a phrase I like to remember that goes along with patience is "this too shall pass". I like to keep this in mind when things go really well and when they don't, so I remember to take in the moment and see what is wonderful about right now. The need to exercise patience is something I have to work on almost everyday, and, after reading this article, I will make sure I take even more time to enjoy the moment and try to connect with those around me.

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  17. Aw man patience is soo easy. So I play a competitive fighting game and my character requires me to be SUPER Patient. The hardest thing is when I see an opening I wanna take it but I know if I do it won't work. So I have to restrain myself from doing anything for 30 seconds to like 2 mimutes at a time. Eventually it gets easy which it is for me. We'll thats all I have on patience, it's pretty much a mustneed for anything it helps alot. Anyways the article was cool it told me things I already knew about which was fine.

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  18. This article was so sweet and sad, it reminded me that there are so many in things life that can be taken for granted if not noticed, or if not patient enough. Not just this but not all big moments are the important memories that could be kept since there could be small moments that can be just as important. For me, patience is easy. I don't really like waiting, but I know that waiting is just something that has got to happen, so I don't get mad.
    I'm not sure what was the biggest memory of being patient, but I have many examples of it. Waiting in line is an example of being patient. A memory that I have from it was something that another person did. I was at Walmart and the lines were pretty huge. I did not mind waiting for so long since it is something that always happen. There was three people right in front me in the line, one paying, the others waiting. All three had so much stuff in their carts, in my mind, I knew this was going to be long (At this time, I didn't go to $20 or less to pay). The person behind the ones who were paying seemed very irritated, either she was having a bad day and the line just wasn't helping. However the one person behind her was very patient and kind enough to notice me and ask if I wanted, I could short cut since I only had a few things to buy. I took her offer, and I thought to myself that it was pretty nice of her to let me short cut even though she has been waiting for so long in line, and was next to buy. It made my day feel so much better.
    This made me learn that being patient can make others happy and could help you encounter many new memories. It could affect you and it could affect others.

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  19. I believe that the message in the article is one that everyone needs to pay attention too. I agree with the idea of slowing our lives down and being more patient, and I have noticed that when I do that, great things come out of it like it did for this man. Waiting can not only greatly impact you, but it can impact those around you.

    As for myself, the hardest thing I have ever had to wait for was for the day I turned 18. I feel like I was waiting my whole entire life to be 18 because I knew I'd be an adult and be able to do things that adults could do. During the time while I was waiting to be 18, I didn't really learn anything, but now that I am 18 and have done some reflecting, I have learned to appreciate your childhood and your innocence. I learned that the world is scary, and to value every moment of your childhood. I also learned that every time your parent has told you "no" or has punished you, is for your own good. Most importantly, I learned to cherish all of the small moments in life, and that I should slow down and appreciate everything I have been given. Life is SO short and we owe it to ourselves to enjoy every minute of it.

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  20. The article is big eye opener. I believe if everyone took some time and read the story about the taxi driver, they would have a new outlook on how to spend life. The article was so touching and sad, that it makes you sit and think about the importance of interaction with others.

    Something I find very hard to wait for is for someone I love to come back home. This is something that happens a lot. Many time my mother would go to Chicago with my step father, and I would be left at my dad's house waiting for my best friend to return home. Other times I wait for friends or others in which I love to come back. When I was younger I always questioned how someone could just leave and the world still carry on. From these experiences that I had to wait out, I learned that people must go on, whether they return in 10 days or 10 months, they are always in your heart. If my mother never left for vacation, I would never get to spend those longs days with my dad. Life creates these small moments for a reason, and even though it doesn't seem like the best thing at the time, I know I can always look back and see the better of the situation.

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  21. I love this article so much! I've found it before, and it warms my heart every time I read it. It's pretty crazy how our lives aren't just OUR lives, y'know? There are so many other people out there, going through their own experiences and being affected by your actions. As is mentioned in the cab driver's reflection, things like the Butterfly Effect are a big deal. . . People think of all the 'what-if?'s, the 'almost's, or 'perhaps' rather than focusing on the here and now, where they have presence and power.

    Being a hardcore procrastinator, I have a tendency to wait when I really shouldn't, and it's not very enjoyable at times. Honestly, it's both the little and big things that freak me out, though. Waiting for someone to text you back as you watch the typing symbol, sitting in the kitchen waiting for my father to come home from work in California every Friday night, the drive to Comicon in a new cosplay worrying over it's response, mentally preparing how I'll order food in a restaurant. . . One thing that has especially occupied my mind as of late is the future. Not only is the fear of graduation and the DP testing settling in amongst us seniors, but things like college acceptance, FAFSA, and scholarships (I'm currently waiting for the response for a rather large one, which can be quite worrisome) are approaching while all we can do is watch and wait. I like to think things like these not only teach patience and peace of mind, but also reflection and acceptance. I know that the future is out there, but both exciting and fearsome as it is, just like waiting for my dad to come home, there's always something to look forward to.

    "NEVER give up on something you really want. It's difficult to wait, but it's more difficult to REGRET." ~Unknown

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  22. n this article, I loved the first couple of paragraphs! It really gets you thinking and made me replay so many moments I have had just today. I also really appreciated the authors detail in initially describing the women, the house, and his surroundings in just a limited amount of space. At the end I appreciated him reflecting to himself, “What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?”. I just loved this article. It even made New Yorker's seem a little bit nicer!
    This may be a bit off topic but I do know something that I have learned to be more patient with, and that is being patient on others telling the truth. This is probably not a very good example, since it should be a norm and is important to a lot of people to tell the truth, as soon as you can, especially to your family and when it affects them as well. I feel from my past experiences in my family this is something I had to learn to get used to and has made me not to be SUPER upset when people aren’t “straight up” with me, and has made figuring out when other people are hiding things easy for me. It was hard for me to realize this at a young age, especially with people that should always be truthful and the biggest role models in my life. For me, I have learned that getting the truth from people is something you have to wait for. Also, sometimes you can’t always rely on others to tell you things, sometimes you need to initiate the situations and conversations, even though they aren’t yours, helping me be more open about my feelings and thoughts with others I know. This topic has helped teach me how to be more peaceful in situations like these, since it has happened in my family and life so many times, instead of holding anger and getting mad. I know this probably seemed a little lame and not the point of the prompt, but it is the biggest thing that I have to be patient with in my life right now.. and most likely very depressing.

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  23. What an amazing articles that reminds us to slow our course , take a breather, and look at the details. It also gave me a mix of feelings-the best things always do.
    In terms of waiting, I am a very patient individual, however, I cannot wait to see all my siblings grown up. To see them with their families, how they mature, how much more strong our family bond becomes. I think there's something special in that-seeing those you love grow, mature, and adapt right before your very eyes. There's something ironic in that, we are told our whole lives to wait yet want nothing than the opposite.

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  24. This article is very eye-opening. It makes you think of the greater things in life. Waiting and taking your time can teach you some of your greatest life lessons. One thing I'm waiting for is college. I'm excited for college, but I think its also important to be patient and enjoy my last few months as a young high schooler. Although I'm excited,I am more than content to wait.

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  25. I've read this touching story a few times before, but never has it hit as when it did this last time. My grandparents, who are staying with us for eight weeks, are 84 and 85. As I've grown older, they too have. No longer are they up to the challenges they once were. No longer is my grandfather able to work on our cottage without help (the ladder is even too heavy for him), and it was with heavy hearts when we told him he shouldn't. It's hard to see things they once loved become too strenuous. This story, with the little old woman, just opens my eyes to how little time we get on this world.
    We live in a society where we don't have to wait anymore. We demand constant media and interaction, without fail. There's one place where the wifi and the signals don't reach and that's when my family and I go to Rocky Point for a weekend over Memorial Day. Our phone's get locked away, and the wifi is nonexistent. The trip going to the vacation house is the longest wait I have all year. I can't wait to put my feet in the water, and feel the Sea of Cortez breeze in my hair. It's the build-up that really makes it worth it. It's knowing that as soon as your feet touch the sand that there's nothing to disturb you for the next four days. No emails to respond to, no issues to deal with. We bond as a family, and we rediscover serenity. I think without the drive, it would feel like a cold turkey switch, which makes the journey even more special.

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  26. This article was amazing and really put into perspective that we can miss some of the most meaningful moments in our lives if we don't take the time to slow down for a moment.

    I can't think of a specific moment when I had to wait for something, but there have been many times patience has been hard. Whether it be waiting for a family member to come back home or waiting to go on a trip or maybe even something as simple as waiting for something to download. I have a very busy personality and always feel I need to be doing something which has made patience something hard to embrace for me at times.

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  27. This article was super sweet. :)
    The elderly woman probably learned over time to not rush things seeing as though she probably can't really rush anyway. I don't think things should be rushed I agree with what the article said in the beginning. That "small moments all add up to the bigger sum of your life"
    I feel as though we miss out on so much beauty, opportunities, experiences, and maybe even love because of our "need for speed."
    Being a person who doesn't have a phone or car, or even really a reason to be at a certain time and place at an exact moment I consider myself lucky because I don't feel this pressure of always looking for a faster way to a place or a faster wi-fi connection.
    Of course there have been times when I have felt truly impatient. Whether I'm waiting for that new friend to look my way, waiting for that call for an interview at my dream job, even waiting for my Mom to call me just to see how i'm doing.

    I remember a time when I was truly impatient...
    These were rough times for me although I was only five or six maybe even seven. I spent all of what I knew into my fantasies of having a family. And not just any family,no. A happy family, like those ones you'd see on T.V. Where your siblings wouldn't fight with each other your mom and dad would work all day to come home a smile at you just because and then hug you tightly and stroke your soft hair telling you how much they love you until you eventually fall asleep. Throughout my first five years of existence I never really got a taste of what family meant. I remember being in foster care and my foster mom, Erica was about to come home and it was her birthday. Now this was when I was about five and I felt like I was just beginning to feel like I belonged somewhere. I was being sent to bed by my foster dad George because, well I was supposed to be in bed and George didn't want to get in trouble with his lady on her birthday, but me being my stubborn self I wanted to stay up and wish Erica happy birthday. I kept whining and coming back out of the room I slept in while everyone hid. I finally came out and yelled as loud as I could "I want to see mommy!!" and George yelled back "She's not your mom!!"
    I was so surprised by this and finally Erica got home and I ran to her and gave a hug and told her that I loved her and of course called her mom then she pushed me away slightly and said "I'm not your mom"
    Okay, that broke my heart a little
    I didn't have a mom was all I could think of
    I had A mom but I was told didn't really care or even love me because she chose drugs over me. Now I was crying and I ran to my room and everyone just kind of let me, even my sister.
    The next morning I was still sad but no one really noticed but that was the day my life changed I was being flown to Arizona to meet my new family. I didn't really understand this because Oregon was all I ever knew. The only I knew Arizona was that it was hot, and that meant no snow (BOOOOO!)
    Long story short being without a family so long taught me that waiting is all a part of life and patience can lead to the perfect ending. Of course it wasn't all that I thought it would be but I wouldn't want it any other way. And I think this article really showed that.

    Thank you Mrs.Caraway for another amazing read!

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  28. I always want the next thing to happen. I work towards it, but sometimes I'm impatient. I think everyone is. It's not that I don't enjoy the ride, but I do eventually want to reach my destination.
    As to the story, I think it was very sweet. The taxi driver did the right thing to let the old woman drive as long as she wanted to. That showed great respect.

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  29. This article really touched me. It showed me how just the little things in my life can affect others so greatly. recently I had just watched a video of a bunch of kids opening shoe boxes, but not any shoe boxes, Operation Christmas Child boxes. I volunteer for that organization every year for many hours a day, just packing boxes. I realized in the video, the child had opened it and had gotten a stuffed animal whale. Although it was so minute to me, it would be a treasure for him. I never really put too much thought into what happened after those boxes get sent off because I get upset about how I am spoiled and other kids are in need. I needed to wait and see their reaction, that is what I was waiting for. To know, I spent hours filling those boxes, when I could have been doing other “important” things, it was amazing to see their reactions. I learned instant gratification is not always the best thing. Sometimes it doesn’t always motivate people, just like I am sure the taxi driver would have loved to just drive off after the first honk, but he stuck around and drove the lady through the city. He had delayed gratification, he did not make her pay, but she paid in joy and by giving the driver an experience. I think we should all learn, it is not about the materialistic items or the instant satisfaction, but the joy given from others and the experience and journey other people share with us from their life and perspective.

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  30. The article, for me, was peaceful. People nowadays don't have a lot of patience because that's the way they are raised; "I want it, now" and they get what they want. But the taxi driver waited, only because it was the end of his shift. But then, he even helped the lady! Personally, I don't remember waiting for anything maybe Christmas presents. But I knew I wouldn't get exactly what I wanted, no this isn't a pity story, it's the truth. My mom didn't want to raise me like some parents do "I want it, give it now." My mom raised me to understand that I can't get everything that I want in the world. But now, I'm just waiting how I'm going to overcome life.

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  31. I really enjoyed the article that you provided for us in the blog post. It was such a cute article, and part of me felt like I was there with the cab driver. The cab driver was super sweet for doing what he did for the old woman. There are times when I look around at people in my life or people that I see, and I wonder why they treat the elderly with so much disrespect and rudeness. People like the cab driver make me happy, because he treated her so well. If another driver came along, they might not have been as understanding or as nice as he was, and the old woman’s night may not have gone as well as it did.

    As far as I can remember, I have not had to wait for anything other than material things in my life. The only things I can remember waiting for are things like clothes or perfumes that I ordered online. I did not learn anything in having to wait, but I have learned things in not having to wait. Being able to order something online and it come in the next day has taught me that I am very privileged to live the way that I do, especially because there are others out there who cannot do the same things as me.

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  32. I thought this story was really heart warming and eye opening and that in some form or fashion everyone could relate to it. I feel like i related to the story not because i rushed through life and miss out but because all my life I have been waiting for my life to start. Waiting to grow up. Waiting to drive. Waiting for more freedom. But now that I'm almost grown and i have freedom. I have realized that great things are not going to come just because you were waiting for them. You have to go out and make them. Waiting, for me is a disservice. If i wait too long i hype things up and when i get them I'm disappointed. I have learned that if i take advantage of the time i have and the opportunities i am given I wouldn't have to wait for great things to happen they would already be happening.

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  33. I really enjoyed this article as it made me sit for a moment to think of all the times I'm extremely impatient. I love living a fast paced life and I'm always thinking about what I'm going to do next instead of enjoying the moment I am in. It was really enlightening to sit back and think about this article, since I probably would have been the impatient taxi driver that the driver in the story was imagining near the end of the article. It helped me reflect on the way I live my life and recognize some of the mistakes I make. As far as the hardest thing I've ever had to wait for, I would say that it was waiting to come home from Mexico and after about a month to see my best friend. Looking back now, we might have just been dramatic and exaggerating since we were about 12 and a month felt like a year. We were inseparable at the time and we had gotten into a big fight, but the night before I left she gave me a letter apologizing. We both cried and she told me that she was going to miss me, so the entire trip I was just dying to get back home and have things be normal between us again. I'm not sure why this memory sticks with me after all of these years, but I had a very close connection to her and I was very excited when I finally was able to get home and see her again. As much as I hated waiting, it was worth the wait.

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  34. This article reminded me of many things that brought emotional tears. The article is based on the decision one person took without unconsciously knowing the impact it would cause another person. Call it fate or coincidence this choice was a small act that made an elderly women relive the memories of living. I loved the way the taxi had not only the the patience of taking her around the city throughout the night, but also to listen to the stories she had to share. The taxi driver could have very well the followed her request of taking the route she wanted (which in my opinion would benefits the taxi driver for the more miles he would driven the more cash he would make). But I think what really put the icing on the cake of the lesson of patience was the simple fact of listening. I bet he heard everything through the women’s little comment. He heard her sadness, her love, her rage, her happiness and heard the life which she had lived.

    I can't say what the hardest thing I have ever had to wait for, for in my house I'm known as the girl that can't chew. My family members give me this phrase for I want to eats the whole world in one bite. I want everything now! I want a degree, I want to travel, I want to find happiness but like a little brat I want it now. The last few months have been very hard I have seen so many people be taken away. When you hear those bad news it's when the lesson of patience really impacts you. No matter what you're doing or where you are it hits you hard. Those little interactions no matter how small they were become everything when that person goes away. I start to replaying those little moments in my head. How insignificant those interactions were in that second but how significant they are now. Thank you Chloe, grandma, and Ms. Adrian for the little moments we shared. They were beautiful for they made me the person I am today and will never be forgotten.

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  35. The hardest thing I have ever had to wait for… you know there is so much that you say you have to wait for but after you think about it you don’t tend to see the point in a lot of the things to wait for, some say a videogame in the mail, or maybe to go hang out with some buddies, but all that feels so mundane… I would have to say the hardest thing I ever had to wait for is to go see Costa Rica, my father is an immigrant from there, and I always wanted to just go and see the culture, and as I grew older, I could tell he wanted to go back just as badly. In fact I remember we used to on occasion talk long into the night about all the things that would be there. Then finally a year ago I went with my family, and it was beyond description, seeing family, watching the beauty of all the wildlife and people, it was amazing. And if I learned anything from waiting, it is that it was worth it, because I don’t think that if I had gone when I was younger, that I would be able to truly understand and enjoy the entirety of it.

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  36. The taxi driver in the article is an amazing person. Taking two hours out of his day to drive the lady around just to make her day. Some days, I don't even have two hours to spare, and he probably didn't either, but he chose to do right by the women and give her the last great day of social interaction she could ever have. That is the essence of human kindness.

    It is hard to even think of the hardest thing I have ever had to wait for as most of my life has consisted of waiting for birthdays and Christmas's. If I had to chose one, however, it would be waiting for my grandma to pass away. This was the hardest wait of my life. I didn't want her to die, but I didn't want her to suffer either. I had to watch her whither away everyday from cancer. Granted, at least it was in her home, where the memories between grandparents and grandchildren are made, but it was hard because she was suffering. She could barely move, she wouldn't talk. She just laid there. I never knew what to say because I was ten, so I just stared. This waiting, however, taught me to spend those precious seconds with those you love because you never know when they won't be able to join you in them. My last Christmas with my grandma was in February after she got out of the hospital. During Christmas I was angry because I couldn't open my gifts, but then after seeing my grandma I understood why. It is painful to relive that moment and that year, but it taught me to be less selfish and to cherish my time with my family, so that when suffering comes there is more pleasant memories that will comfort you and get you through it.

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  37. I think that story was very kind and sweet, highlighting the importance of slowing down and appreciating the present moment. It's just like the taxi driver said, while him obliging this one old woman may have felt like a small moment in his large and bustling city life, those minutes out of his day could have meant so much joy for one old lady. It was because he had the patience to wait just a while longer and the patience to take the longer route to please a fellow human being.
    Concerning me, there are many times in which I have had to wait in my life, and while I may have hated every single moment of waiting, I can now look back at it and appreciate its importance to my own growth in learning how to be patient. Of course, in today's fast-paced society, it's very hard to slow down and keep your own time. No, if you want to survive and thrive in this world, you must play by the rules of this immense and intertwined game of people and their interactions we call life.
    Nonetheless, I believe that while we may be forced to track time and stay on our schedules, we must eventually forget about waiting for the future or remembering the past, but have the patience to appreciate the current moment happening now.
    There's a song lyric from one of my favorite songs from my favorite music artist (Sabrina Carpenter!), that I believe fits really nicely right on this topic. It goes: The present is our future past, we've got to make this moment last, right now."

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  38. That story was very touching and I appreciated reading it even though I'm trying to rush and finish my homework on the last day of break. Ironic. For me the hardest thing I had ever had to wait for was news regarding my brother and whether he would be able to come home and whether I would be able to see him. Atlas that was not the case and for a year and 6 months I had to move out of my home for him and live with other family and close friends that were so generous to open their homes to me. I learned many lessons while not at my home and one of them was how unrealistic the word is made out to us. It is cruel and unforgiving and you must learn to go past that and find the greatness. And in the next few months I think I will have something else that I will be waiting for, because it concerns what will happen after high school.

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  39. I felt the article was so heartwarming and made me think of the question, "What if..?" The article made me realize that we need to take our time and notice the smallest things/details in life - or we'll miss new outlooks or opportunities to do good.

    The hardest thing I've had to wait for is vacation. I was so impatient to go to Rocky Point over the summer of 2016, that that's all I would ever talk and think about because I was so excited. I learned that I'm a little annoying when I'm excited and impatient (which is most of the time).

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  40. The article was so pleasing to read, the article felt like it was taken straight out of a movie. It made me want to slow down and appreciate all of the small things life has to offer.

    I can be a pretty impatient person so waiting is rough for me but the hardest thing I've waited for each year is for the school year to be over, because that meant one year closer till I graduated. This was something I highly anticipated each year until the year has actually come. I have learned that instead of rushing myself into to graduating I should enjoy these years while they last, because senior year has been the quickest.

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  41. I think that the article is a very satisfying and wholesome article. One that invokes thought and reflection to one's own life and how their interactions affect others. Slowing down I feel like is something that I've always done and always still do. Not just slowing down, but taking things as they are and not rushing things to be something else. I like being patient and cautious and do not like to rush. Most of my teachers and Coaches and just about anyone in my life can attest to this. If you're waiting for everyone to leave a classroom to let your next class in, expect me to be the one holding you up, if you're waiting for all your players to get on a bus to go to a game, expect me to be one of the last guys on, if you're waiting to start up the dishwasher, expect me to be the last one at the dinner table finishing my food so I can add my dishes to the rest. I guess my gift of being slow is in turn a gift to others by forcing them to wait and slow down themselves and appreciate the now.
    Anyways, when it comes to the hardest thing I've ever had to wait for, many scenarios emblazon into my mind. Nothing too special or important, all memories of which is clouded with impatience and the want to just GO and DO SOMETHING, ANYTHING. One of these occasions I can remember was when I was relatively young, maybe 9 or 10 or so, when my dad had went out to get food (I think pizza) for dinner. I was extremely famished and felt like I was going to die (in that little kid irrational manner) if I didn't get that food NOW. Low and behold, in a time span in what felt like a few hours to me, and perhaps maybe even were, my dad had come back and brought all of us (my family) food and everyone went and dug in. Back then my dad always said that I ate like it was my last meal, or as if I hadn't eaten in days, and even in recent times he has still said to me to slow down and enjoy my food (which is probably why I now do so to this day). Nevertheless, the wait that I had to endure for my food made that food that came in the end all the more memorable and worth cherishing and enjoying. I've learned to this day that in a world and society fixated on instant gratification, slowing down and appreciating the process that goes into things, being more anticipatory and cautious, is the way to fully appreciate the little things in life. When others ask me why I take so slow on nearly everything I do, I always respond with "Because it's a process." Having a meticulous, perfectionist, Type A personality aside, I enjoy the processes in life and have come to the understanding that life itself is a process (even though I haven't come to full accords with that when it comes to my love life). For me, going through these processes, not just looking towards the end result, is what's important. Just like those motivational posters say: "It's the journey, not the destination."

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  43. I feel very align with the article. In many ways I can see myself in it, and the reliability is has scares me a little, haha!
    The hardest thing I’ve ever waited for was probably when I was in the airport waiting for my flight to the US. Not only was a waiting for an airplane that would take me to a whole new country, continent, culture and experiences. I was waiting for an airplane to a new life. Being an exchange student is sometimes really hard, and especially all the waiting-time that comes along with traveling to a new place for a year. You’re waiting for friends, you’re waiting for a host-family, you’re waiting for new environments - everything is basically just a big waiting-game. Which makes it even more exciting to go on exchange. The wait I had in the airport was not exciting thought. I felt like I had to throw up. Watching my parents stand about 10 feet away from me waving was horrifying. My mom’s tears dripping down her cheekbones, my dad’s mouth slowly making wave-motions, and last but not least; my amazing grandma. That just broke my heart, and made the waiting seem twice as long!

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  44. I enjoyed the article alot because it taught me to slow down and enjoy my life as it is happening. With college coming up and a new stage of my life about to begin, I forget to stop and enjoy some of the last great moments of this stage in my life. A saying that sticks with me many times is that "It's not about the destination,it's about the journey." This blog really brought that quote into new life for me and I will try to stay grounded in the present and not worry about the future. As far as the longest I have had to wait for something, one moment that really stands out to me is when I was little and I was at the grocery store with my mom and while we were in the checkout line she remembers something she needs and hurries off leaving me with all the stuff. As a little kid this was horrifying. I just remember being the next in line and looking around for my mom to get back and pay. In these seconds (that felt like hours), it really did teach me to be less shy and get out of my comfort zone. Even with the littlest things like that, I feel like I learned many valuable lessons from it.

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  45. I thought this article was very touching and eye opening. I am guilty of being an impatient person, and I think that unfortunately is one of the prices of having everything instantly nowadays. To be honest if I was him, I most likely would have driven off if the person didn't answer the first couple times. But reading about how just waiting a few moments and being patient can have such an impact on not only you, but others around you, makes me mentally note to slow down. I have always been one to enjoy every moment God gives me on this Earth. I never say a bad goodbye to someone, and I always try to make the best out of every situation because life is short. But one thing I do struggle with is impatience, and I think this article helped me tremendously in thinking twice about what I should be doing with my time.

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  46. I've never looked at patience quite like this. Reading the story about the elderly woman and the taxi driver I found myself thinking about small seemingly insignificant interactions of my own. If I were to choose the hardest thing I've had to wait on it would probably be my mission. For my church I plan on serving a two year mission however I won't know where I go for another 5 months or so. I could go anywhere in the world and depending on where I go my life's going to be changed so this is by far my most anticipated wait. However as I currently wait for my location to be given to me I've realized that all I can do now is live my life in the moment and patiently wait to hear. After all, I only have about 5 months left of my high school career so I might as well live in the "now" rather than the future or past.

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  47. Recently, I have begun to realize the true gravity of the saying "It's about the Journey, not the destination". As I look to my elders and people i respect, I see things that I want in the future. Whether it be material items, patience, or knowledge/wisdom on a subject. It's not like the sat around waiting to have these things and then one day they just fell into their lap.. they had to work for what they had and they earned it because of the journey to where they are now. In the future I want to appreciate the little moments in life more. When you are stuck at a traffic light.. or waiting in line at a store... or anything else like that. I think the hardest thing I've ever had to wait for, I am still waiting for. I am very exited to start my career and become an self sustaining adult. I should probably take a look around me now and enjoy where I am at in my life more, instead of just waiting for adulthood.

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  48. This article is actually very interesting. It made me really question what things have gone on in my life that I may have taken for granted, or the events that I just didn't find significant enough to really think about. I really cant decide if i'm an impatient or patient person. I honestly really believe that it will all depend on what situation im put in. I know that I am very patient when I am trying to help people, or when im teaching something to somebody, or if im waiting for something. This is because I can put myself in their position and remember what it was like to need somebody to be patient with me. However, I have no patience when I am dealing with ignorant and stupid people. The moment that people are not giving me the time of day or just aren't being respectful, I will lose all of my patients for them, no matter what is going on. The hardest thing I have ever had to wait for would be my acceptance letter to University of Oregon. For the two weeks that I waited after sending in my application, I didn't know what to do with myself. I was constantly checking the mail, I was very impatient. Once I got my letter, it was a huge relieve and I was no longer questioning my abilities and questioning if I had done well enough in school. This has taught me a few things, but most importantly, it taught me that the best things in life are worth waiting for, and I will welcome those things indefinitely (:

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  49. I really enjoy the story told in this article, I have heard it before and enjoy it every time I hear it. It helps me to focus on the fact that everybody around me has a life just as complex and complicated as my own and that slowing down to meet someone who is around me could change their or my life in ways I could never have imagined. I could experience something or learn something new that I had never heard or experienced before simply by saying "hello" to somebody new that I have never talked to before. Slowing down in life and enjoying those moments are definitely very important. The hardest things I've had to wait for would probably be anything that I'm waiting to be shipped to my house. I'm always looking forward to it arriving and imagining what it will be like when I have it, but whatever it is, it is never as good as I imagine it to be while waiting. I have learned that when you really anticipate something, it almost always turns out to be less than you imagined it to be while waiting for it, so just sit back and enjoy the things already around you for a little bit while you wait for whatever it is that you want.

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  50. I think that personally, the worst thing I've ever had to wait for was a response for a job application. Fortunately, I only had to wait for the response until that weekend, but it still feels like the longest week of my life. My patience paid off, but it also taught me something. It taught me that I am fortunate to have a job and that I want to go further my education so that I have people chasing after me, trying to recruit me for jobs, rather than the other way around.

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  51. There was a beautiful story told here in this article. A story which I would say teaches the virtue of patience better than any other I've heard. To be more specific, it really teaches how to be patient with people in particular. One must give everyone there best, regardless of what you're initial impression may be. What surprises me the most is that this man found it in him to have the patience for someone being that he is from NYC. Something 99% of New Yorkers have sadly learned to do is to disregard those who do not immediately concern them. New York City certainly has its fair share of 'interesting' characters. As such, natives of the big apple simply don't notice, a homeless person crying on a street corner due to hunger, or a child lost in a mall, and the list goes on. I have noticed this first hand every time I have gone to visit family. It is incredibly depressing to watch. However it is something worthy of admiration to see that this man stuck with this woman for the whole night and as a result was impacted considerably heavily. Never let yourself sell somebody short.

    I took it upon myself to wait with someone's son while they ran off to do God knows what (it must have been important considering the way he sprinted off). I was out at the mall and had gone to treat myself as I once had the bankroll to do so. Upon seeing the way the man ran away, I immediately felt a sense of panic overcome me, this stranger just left his son with me and ran away like he saw a ghost, I was not about to rear a child at sixteen. I took a deep breath, sat down at a bench, and made good company out of the boy. After the longest 45 minutes of my life, the man came back and offered me fifty dollars and a very strong genuine hug as compensation. I always never thought twice to help out a stranger but now I never even stop to think, I just say yes. My patience payed off greatly, I sat with a kid and earned fifty bucks in less than hour!

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